Family Traditions

I’ve shared here before about how I grew up hunting with my dad. And how it’s a passion I’m hoping to pass down to my girls.

The actual hunting is only a part of it. We don’t hunt for the trophies, we hunt for the meat…as a way to provide for our family. Once the deer is down, the real work begins. Growing up, every year dad got a deer it was the same thing…he’d bring home the deer and hang it up in the shop to cure. A few days later, we’d clear off the dining room table, set up an assembly line and cut and wrap the deer.

When I was Rylee’s age, I was in charge of the tape. I always so bummed all I got to do was the tape. If I was lucky I’d get to help label too. As I got older, and my sisters moved away, I was promoted to wrapper. When Andy came into the picture, he joined in our assembly line. Once we had kids, one of us would be on hand for cut & wrap and the other on kid duty. Sometimes my dad’s siblings will be there to help out. This year, my sister’s boyfriend got to join in the fun while my sister…uhhh…supervised. Our assembly line has changed many times over the years but one thing remains the same: it’s time we all come together and share in a family tradition that I have so many fond memories of.

This year I really looked forward to gathering around the table. This is the first year Rylee has been old enough to participate. After we all ate dinner, Andy took Reese home for bed and Ry stayed with me to help. She was excited and I was excited that she was excited.

We all took our places around the table. She asked Grandad questions about what he was doing.

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Then she took even greater care in labeling each pack. Making sure to write “By Rylee” in case anyone wondered who wrote on it.

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We all had our jobs. We shared laughs. We planted the seed of another beloved family tradition. There are so many things in life that now looking back I didn’t truly appreciate at the time. It’s amazing how appreciation and perspective changes and you get older. I hope that it’s something that when she’s an adult she looks back on as fondly as I do.

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Currently

It’s Thursday! So I’m linking up with Ot&Et and Harvesting Kale and their  weekly “currently” post…

Wishing that things were more black and white sometimes.

Typing up a storm lately…seriously…I’m pretty proud of myself for sticking with this NaBloPoMo thing so far. Obviously some posts have been sort of lame, but hey, I’m doing it! And plus also? I’ve been loving it.

Moving messes from one part of the house to another. I had an idea for a post on this, but seriously…my house is chaos. There isn’t a single room in my house, inclding the bathrooms, that don’t ahve some sort of dumb mess in it. I try to keep at least my kitchen/dining room from getting too bad because, like I’ve mentioned before, that just leaves me plain overwhelmed. I decided to start on the rest of the house by tackling Reese’s room. Poor second child, I never finished her nursery before she was born. To my credit, she hasn’t cared at all. But now that she’s a bit older, I figured it was time to start cleaning it up and making it usable for her. I’ve packed up all of the outgrown baby clothes and supplies and 4 giant 50 gal trash bags, 1 box and 3 rubbermaid tubs later, I’ve got it pulled out of her room and ready to give away. Too bad those trash bags have gone from her room to the hallway. Fail.

Thinking about when I’m going to read the first chapter of Lean In for the virtual book club I started with Lindsey. We open up discussion on chapter 1 starting Monday and so far (read: a week ago when I got the book) I read the introduction. I need to get on that.

Laughing a Reese lately…she is full of piss and vinegar and if I don’t laugh I will surely go crazy. She’s got a fire in her eyes and a shit eatin’ grin that cracks me up. She’s doing all sorts of cute things lately like throwing up her hands and cocking her head to the side when you ask her what she’s doing. Like a “who me?” kind of look. ¯\_(ツ)_/¯

Last night? She took a bite out of an whole, unpeeled avocado…she spit out the skin then proceeded to eat it like an apple…she doesn’t even like avocados. Noted kid…earlier dinner times coming up.

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Love is…

I feel like everyone has that person they look up to in life…a mentor or role model, if you will. Whether it’s career related or personal life. Back in my late teens/early 20’s I had one of those people in my life. I looked up to her in every way. In her career. In her marriage. And eventually, in her parenting. Even before I had a career, marriage or children I’d take note of things she would do or say.

One of those things was something she once said about the subject of love. She didn’t say it directly to me, rather in a group setting. What she said made so much sense. It’s a little tid-bit I have shared with others over the years and it’s something I often come back to in my own relationship.

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Makes sense, doesn’t it?

She’s since moved away but to this day many of those things have stuck with me and shaped the way I work, partner and parent.

Smiles and sunsets

My drive home from work takes me down quiet country roads with beautiful views. Often times I use my time between the office and picking up the girls as a time to catch up with my sisters or my girlfriend. Or rock out. Or sometimes just quiet time…To decompress after a busy day.

Today was one of the quiet days. The sun was just about set. The fog was settling in around the lake. It was a beautiful evening. I drove in silence. Without even thinking, I brought my hand to my neck. It brushed my necklace. I caught myself and smiled.

My grandma has been gone over 7 years now and there’s still not a day that goes by where I don’t think about her. She’s never far from my mind.

On days I seem to miss her more than normal I think about what it’d be like to visit with her again. It’s an odd thing to go from visiting multiple times a week to never being able to do it again. We’d talk about nothing. Or everything. No matter what my days were always brighter. I can still picture her smile. Even how her eyes beamed. How she’d squeeze my hand.

Today would have been one of those days where I would have stopped off for a visit before going home. To share a bit about my day.

I look at the sun setting through the clouds. I think about all the things I would be telling her if she was here. My hand touches my necklace again and I smile picturing her smile. Shes never too far away.

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Teaching them the tough stuff

I hate the term “teachable moments” but I’ll be the first to admit that I almost never let one of those opportunities go by…particularly when it comes to “tough stuff”…but you never quite know when it sinks in or not. Take our visit to Pearl Harbor, for example. We took that as an opportunity to talk about the men & women that serve, or have served, our country and about those that have fallen in battle for the sake of our freedom. Rylee seemed reverent and respectful for the most part, but did get restless toward the end. After the visit, we’d ask her about it and she’d mostly talk about touring the submarine. When prompted, she’d remember/talk about the memorial. See what I mean about things “sinking in”?
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About a month later Rylee was out with my sister when another “teachable moment” arose…
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We’re trying to raise our girls to have thankful hearts and to think of others. This is a total brag moment from a few months ago, but I like to think it means we’re on the right track…and I figured, particularly because today is Veteran’s Day, I should follow suit…if you’re reading this and you’re a veteran, thank you…from the bottom of my heart…thank you for the sacrifices you and your family made in order to serve our country.